How Bazi Helped Me Understand My Relationships
Relationships aren’t easy. Whether it’s love, family, or friendships, they bring so much joy but also pain, confusion, and heartbreak. I’ve felt all of it—the sting of heartbreak, tense moments with family, and the loneliness of losing friends I thought would always be by my side.
For a long time, I blamed myself for everything that went wrong. I thought, “What did I do wrong? Why can’t I get this right?” But when I turned to Bazi, everything started to make sense. It showed me my patterns, helped me understand why some relationships were so hard, and gave me tools to do better.
Let me share my story with you. Maybe it will make you feel less alone.
Why Compatibility Matters
In one of my past relationships, my partner and I started off with incredible chemistry. We laughed constantly, shared big dreams, and felt like we understood each other. But as time passed, cracks began to show. He was impulsive, loved adventure, and made decisions on the spot. Meanwhile, I liked to think things through and plan. He felt frustrated with my slow, reflective nature, and I felt like I couldn’t keep up with his pace.
When I looked at our Bazi charts, everything clicked. My chart showed that I’m drawn to people with strong Water energy—people who are smart, humorous, and creative. He fit that perfectly. His chart, however, revealed that he was in a 10-year luck cycle focused on his career and building wealth. Emotional support and starting a family weren’t his priorities. He was in the middle of his hospital residency, working long hours, and his focus was elsewhere.
I ignored the signs because I was so in love. I poured all my energy into making the relationship work, but deep down, we were moving in different directions. Looking back, I realize I spent years chasing something that wasn’t meant to last.
That breakup was painful, but Bazi gave me clarity. It taught me that letting go isn’t failure—it’s part of my journey. I was born with these challenges, but I’ve learned how to work with them. That perspective gave me strength and hope. It also helped me understand what I truly needed in a partner: someone who not only shares my values but is also ready to grow with me.
Healing and Letting Go
One of the biggest lessons Bazi taught me is that timing matters. Our charts reveal “luck cycles,” periods in life when certain energies—like love or career—are more or less favorable.
During that difficult breakup, my Bazi chart showed that I was entering a period of self-reflection and growth. At first, I resisted. I told myself, “I don’t want growth—I want love. I want a stable relationship by 25, marriage by 27, and kids by 30.” Sound familiar? A lot of people I’ve talked to share similar thoughts.
But life doesn’t always go the way we plan. What we want doesn’t always come when we want it. And that’s okay.
I told myself, “Love will come. It’s just in the next luck cycle.” So, I let go of the timeline I had in my head and focused on myself instead. I spent those years learning who I was, exploring my passions, and building strong friendships. By the time my next luck cycle arrived, I was ready—not just for love, but for the kind of healthy, fulfilling relationship I’d always wanted.
Relationships aren’t always easy, but they’re a big part of what makes life meaningful. If my story resonates with you, I’d love to help you explore your own Bazi chart. Sometimes, a little guidance is all you need to find clarity and move forward.
Thank you for taking the time to read my story. I hope it reminds you that we’re all figuring this out together. You’re not alone, and better days are ahead.